Just Ruined

"CaptDale - is secretly British" (captdale) 05/05/2017 at 13:44 • Filed to: Rants, personal problems, fuck love

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*personal rant + buffer image*

Today started off really well. Woke up in a happy mood, it’s lovely and overcast and cold outside, and I am going to see my guy friend tonight then drive down to Long Beach to see my sister graduate college and have some fun. So pretty much an all around nice day. That is until my guy friend told me he is going to move back to Colorado. We have been kinda dating/hanging out and enjoying someone to have without labeling it as a relationship. It has been wonderful, but as with anything intimate for a long time you obviously develope feelings. And now my heart feels like it is being ripped out of my chest. He doesn’t know when he will move and I will still see him tonight. But I just feel like utter crap now.

Post fast cars for better feels

CB > CaptDale - is secretly British 05/05/2017 at 13:53

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Is long distance an option if things become more serious? Long distance sucks (speaking from experience), but it can be worth it.

WilliamsSW > CaptDale - is secretly British 05/05/2017 at 13:56

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Yow - that sucks. Have a T/A—

CaptDale - is secretly British > WilliamsSW 05/05/2017 at 14:00

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Beautiful car

CaptDale - is secretly British > CB 05/05/2017 at 14:00

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Eh, that never works out right you know?

CB > CaptDale - is secretly British 05/05/2017 at 14:04

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Considering I’m moving in ten weeks to live with my girlfriend after nearly two years of long distance, I’m going to say “never” is wrong.

Noah - Now with more boost. > CaptDale - is secretly British 05/05/2017 at 14:05

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Sorry man :( unrequited love is one thing, but getting screwed over by geographical inconvenience is a whole new level... I’ve been there.

random001 > CaptDale - is secretly British 05/05/2017 at 14:06

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Ugh, man. Sorry to hear. If it helps, I met my wife while we lived 7 hours apart. Somehow we made it work. Worth a shot?

WilliamsSW > CaptDale - is secretly British 05/05/2017 at 14:12

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It’s not easy, but my wife and I were long distance for a few months right at the start. Challenging? Yep. Impossible? Nah.

Chan - Mid-engine with cabin fever > CaptDale - is secretly British 05/05/2017 at 14:15

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It doesn’t work if one party does not commit.

By commit, I mean make feasible, executable plans to end the long-distance aspect sometime in the near future.

That involves serious career reflection and juggling the locations of your respective families. And luck.

CaptDale - is secretly British > CB 05/05/2017 at 14:15

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Fair enough

CaptDale - is secretly British > WilliamsSW 05/05/2017 at 14:15

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Yeah.... I guess

CaptDale - is secretly British > random001 05/05/2017 at 14:15

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Could be idk though. I’ll talk to him tonight.

DaftRyosuke - So Long and Thanks for All the Fish! > CaptDale - is secretly British 05/05/2017 at 14:17

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Never say never, though me and my girlfriend never worked out as a relationship we’re still strong friends and are planning on visiting each other in summer, where we’ll probably become a thing again.

It’s not the same but there’s still hope.

CaptDale - is secretly British > Noah - Now with more boost. 05/05/2017 at 14:17

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Well it isn’t unrequited, but I don’t know how much he cares. We met after having really shitty exs that fucked us both over, so neither of us wanted anything to serious... So I don’t know where this is headed, but we shall see. 

CaptDale - is secretly British > DaftRyosuke - So Long and Thanks for All the Fish! 05/05/2017 at 14:18

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Yeah I suppose so

CaptDale - is secretly British > Chan - Mid-engine with cabin fever 05/05/2017 at 14:19

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Yeah, I know what you mean

Noah - Now with more boost. > CaptDale - is secretly British 05/05/2017 at 14:19

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I should have phrased that differently. What I meant was this situation sounds even more frustrating than not being able to be with someone because they’re not into it. That’s all :)

CaptDale - is secretly British > Noah - Now with more boost. 05/05/2017 at 14:28

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Oh, yeah.... I can agree with that

Chuckles > CaptDale - is secretly British 05/05/2017 at 14:32

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It works sometimes. After over 4 years together, my better half and I were long distance (500 miles) for over 2 years. We’re living together again now.

Chuckles > CaptDale - is secretly British 05/05/2017 at 14:52

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I don’t want to imply that it doesn’t suck. It does suck. Some days I felt like they were choosing a place over being with me. It wasn’t the happiest 2 years. But it did give me a lot of appreciation for my better half. I feel like we’re stronger now, having survived being long distance.

Camshaft Chris: Skyline/McLaren/Porsche Fanboy > CaptDale - is secretly British 05/05/2017 at 17:12

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Maybe not the best advice here as I know nothing about you, but, have you ever considered moving to Colorado, lol? If he means something to you, you do what you gotta do man. Best of luck to you. I hope it all works out!

Camshaft Chris: Skyline/McLaren/Porsche Fanboy > CaptDale - is secretly British 05/05/2017 at 17:18

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Also, to help with the better feels, have a McLaren F1 GTR Longtail:

CaptDale - is secretly British > Camshaft Chris: Skyline/McLaren/Porsche Fanboy 05/05/2017 at 17:40

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Get me the driver’s seat and I will be happy....

CaptDale - is secretly British > Camshaft Chris: Skyline/McLaren/Porsche Fanboy 05/05/2017 at 17:40

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Yeah I have... I just don’t think I have the means to you know? I would love to get out of CA and very very happy to leave where I am.

If only EssExTee could be so grossly incandescent > CaptDale - is secretly British 05/05/2017 at 19:43

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Fuck man, I’ve been exactly there before. It’s a very shitty feeling. Only thing to do is to come forward and explain to him how you feel. There’s a chance it’ll change his mind. I didn’t do that and he left and I’ve been regretting it since.

CaptDale - is secretly British > If only EssExTee could be so grossly incandescent 05/05/2017 at 19:58

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Yeah, we are having dinner tonight, so I will try and voice my feelings. I know it won’t stop him from going because he needs to to get himself in a better place. I just really wish I was in a good enough place to go too. Thank you.

If only EssExTee could be so grossly incandescent > CaptDale - is secretly British 05/05/2017 at 21:47

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Good luck buddy